Congratulations on your engagement! How beautiful is your human commitment to love your future spouse for a lifetime!
Please contact Father Brian shortly after your engagement, and before you book your venue. The next few paragraphs will answer a lot of your questions, but do not hesitate to ask any and all of your questions when you and your beloved schedule your first meeting with Father Brian via text (613-885-1046) or via email at fr.brian.russell@gmail.com
If you wish to enter into a Catholic wedding, we offer to accompany you intentionally towards your wedding day by asking you to meet for four sessions of 90-minutes with another married couple trained and chosen to be your sponsor. Within an 8 week window of your preparation, you are required to attend either the Fall or Spring marriage retreat.
It is for this reason that it is paramount that you inquire at least 6 months, and ideally a year before you set a desired wedding date in order that we provide you with the context to make an informed decision on the process and the nature of the commitment you wish to make with your future spouse.
Please note that a Catholic wedding does not always include the giving and the receiving of the sacrament of Holy Eucharist. Great respect and honour will be given to your fiancé(e) if he/she is not Catholic or not baptized as a Christian. You can still prepare and plan a Catholic wedding as long as one of you is a baptized Catholic, and if you are willing to promise to do your best (while respecting your spouse) to baptize and raise the child(ren) born of your union as Catholics. Your future spouse will not be required to become a Catholic, but will not be denied that possibility either.
In addition, the wedding must take place in a Catholic church, with a Catholic priest or deacon officiating, unless you apply via the priest for a dispensation from the Catholic bishop of the diocese in which you reside in order to be married in another church or place of worship due to family or religious circumstances. Please note that the dispensation will not be granted if you plan an outdoor wedding.
The sacrament of Holy Matrimony between two baptized Christians comes about through a promise made by a man and a woman before God and the Church, which is accepted and confirmed by God and consummated by the bodily union of the couple. Because God himself forms the bond of sacramental marriage, it is binding until the death of one of the partners. [Catechism of the Catholic Church, paragraphs #1625-1631]
So, what is your next step?
Simply contact Fr. Brian (via his cell phone by text at 613-885-1046 or via email at fr.brian.russell@gmail.com) shortly after your engagement and before booking your venue.
After your initial inquiry meeting with Father Brian about getting married in one of our 3 churches, go to this LINK to pay the marriage preparation fee and then register on the same website to begin the process of your being intentionally accompanied by a sponsor couple assigned to you by Father.